How to Handle Mommy Guilt When You Work From Home
By Melissa Batai
As a homeschooling mom to three kids and a self-employed freelance writer and virtual assistant, my days are full. I do some of my work when the kids watch their favorite TV show (Arthur), but the rest of my work is done in the evenings after they're asleep or on the weekends. If you're a work at home mom, this schedule likely sounds familiar.
On the weekends, I easily put in 15 to 20 hours. During that time, I lock myself in our study
and work. The kids can handle this for
awhile, but I think there is an internal sensor that reminds them that mom is
home but NOT playing with them. I can
hear them whining outside the door for some mommy time.
And then I start feeling guilty.
One way to deal with this mommy guilt is to realize how much
better I have it than others. For
instance, if I was a nurse, I'd likely be gone for 12 hours each weekend
day. Because I'm working from home, I
can take breaks to eat meals with the family.
Which leads me to the next way to alleviate mommy
guilt--take productive breaks. When I
need a break from my work, I come out and play with the kids, either for just a
few minutes, or if I can afford a longer break, I'll play a board game with
them. This appeases them, I also get my break, and then I can
go back to my work refreshed.
One other strategy is to plan one fun event where you're
fully present for your kids. My husband
and I have agreed that one weekend a month, I'll take a break from work and
we'll do something fun together. Last
month, we went to a Revolutionary War reenactment, and in October, we're
visiting the farm that provides our CSA basket.
We'll pick pumpkins and take a hayride.
As a work at home mom, helping your kids understand that
even though you're home, you're not always available, can be difficult. Using some of these strategies, you can still
give your children, especially your younger ones, your time while getting your
work done.
How do you fend off mommy guilt? What are your favorite strategies?
I also use time that they spend with Grandparents as fully working times. Tonight I cleaned the house. Tomorrow the Grandparents wanted them. So I will be ready to concentrated on my blog and my book that I am currently working on. Granted this is not the norm that the grandparents have them. But when the time is available, I sever it!
ReplyDeleteThat's a great idea! Not everyone has family to help out, but those who do can likely work out a similar arrangement :)
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